Finally I am no more undecided whether it was right or wrong a decision. I took it and no regrets. I mean there cannot be looking back. There will always be something that should have gone differently in the past, but past cannot be changed and we'd better live today's life with no "if's" nor "but's". At least that is what I chose for myself right now.
I had to drop most of my pals. As shameful as it sounds. Yes, I did it. Anyway, I take it as an act of respect to those I dropped and those I kept. I wasn't regular at all. I would constantly fall behind (not that now I no more do it, it's just I can keep it under control and it won't get unbearable anymore) and I felt literally overwhelmed with the lot of mails I had to reply and it wasn't the way it had to be. Furthermore I admitt that my life is taking a new turn, I am to be more centred on my relationship with boyfriend, on my studies and job (because that's what pays the bills and gives me food at the moment) and time for writing is to be drastically reduced. It's something that troubles me still but I guess it is a part of growing up. I know there's some mother and worker and penpaller who can still manage all the above said activities efficiently and I congratulate on those wonder women... I am just not as smart and I aknowledge my limits and take it as it is. The result had to be a cut in my pallies number.
Of course the choice had to be made with some criterion. And in order to prevent you thinking of me as a monster who would only consider pals as objects (that is not the case with me here) I can explain to all my readers that my only criterion used when cutting my pals' list was based on friendship. I had some long lasting friendship with pals, some people I would know for literally ages and whom I told so much of myself already and whom I trust 100%. I just couldn't think of my life without those people and there it is: the list magically formed before my very eyes. Eva, Jessie, Jen, Mikaela, Sabrina, Steph, Lien, Leanne. They are all special to me in some way, they are my best friends and have already been in my life for quite a time. How could I ever think of letting any of them go?! No way I could do it!
I hope this won't offend any of those who were left out. They are all special people too, but we were just not long enough friends, not to form such a strong bond and I know I was not in the right moment to give all myself to nurturing a new formed friendship. All I can say to those people is I am sorry if I ever disappointed them and failed at satisfying their expectations on me.
The above said I can show some incoming mail, in chronological order:
first comes a special envy I received in July from Jessie, she was so nice and included a fun-tastic pressie for my birthday as well as lovely birthday card:
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| Jessie's parcel |
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| Long letter and Birthday card :) |
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| The fun-tastic birthday pressie: a travel journal.. I need not to tell you it will come along to Bruxelles with Ricky and I next week! |
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| Take a peek inside! |
In August I already received two letters: first came Eva's mail, followed on the following day by Mikaela's letter. I loved to hear about their news and I want to congratulate once again with Miki for graduating!!!!
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| Eva's letter |
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| Mikaela's mail |
And, finally, I took my time to write and send out some outgoing mail:
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| Handmade envelope to Lien, with a view of Positano- Italy |
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| My mail to Steph, I was sure she'd have appreciated my handmade envelope: it was so her style! |
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| Currently writing: my letter to Jessie. |
I solemnly swear I will do all my best to keep track of my incoming and outgoing mail and to be a regular friend in writing to pals... Or even if I can do nothing about being regular (because you know school and job can be meanies most of the times and suck all your vitality off you and you are left with no will to do anything but sleeping at the end of your day) I at least promise novel lenght letters to those I write to!!!
Love you girls!
Untill next time...












Beh sono sicura che sia stato difficile dover dire addio ad alcune penpals, però posso capire perfettamente come ci si sente quando si è letteralmente sommersi di lettere a cui si fatica a rispondere, o comunque quando un hobby finisce più per essere time-consuming che un piacere. Nessuna persona con un pò di esperienza nel penpalling, credo che ti giudicherebbe male per la decisione che hai preso. Personamente preferisco di gran lunga una persona come te che decide di tagliare esplicitamente i rapporti anziché quelle persone che scrivono una lettera ogni 4 mesi soltanto per "conservare" penpals, rendendo impossibile creare un'amicizia solida.. Detto questo, il travel journal è bellissimo! Mi sa che mi faccio un salto su Amazon per cercarlo :D
RispondiEliminaBaci, Fab
Grazie per le tue parole Fab! Avere qualcuno che condivide le mie scelte mi fa essere più sicura della strada che ho preso. Purtroppo non tutti riescono a capire...Ma va bene così... :)
Eliminabaci.
so you werent even going to tell me that you had dropped me? :( wow :( im actually quite offended by that :(
RispondiEliminai sent your letter the other week and i requested that you email me when you get it (because the mail isnt as reliable as it used to be, and i like to know that people have recieved my letters), and when i didnt hear anything, i thought maybe you hadnt got my letter. so i emailed you to check, and didnt hear anything. and then i just thought maybe you were busy which is fair enough, everyone gets busy. i just thought id visit your blog today and see how you are, and i see that not only have i been dropped but you didnt even tell me :( you just ignored me :S
Oh, hi there Petrova! Sorry you are so mad at me but I have never received your letter and actually thought it was you who had dropped me because several months had passed since my intro mail to you and I thought you didn't much like my intro, which is fairly possible. I read your email yesterday but was on my phone and I didn't find the time to writw.a proper reply to it. In the months that passed since my first and only letter to you many things changed for me here and I had to take this painful decision. I didn't let you know with a note, unlike I did with all my other penfriends, just because I hadn't heard from yu for quite a long time after my intro and I thought it just wasn't working with us. M y fault! Sorry if you got hurt.
Elimina